Woman in disbelief after friend ‘invites herself on her honeymoon’


A woman was left shocked after her friend invited herself on her honeymoon – which she says would make the getaway a ‘nightmare’.

The woman and her new husband have several children between them, and so decided against a romantic honeymoon and opted for a family holiday instead.

Her best friend, who she has been close with for over 30 years, has children the same age as the newly weds and so she invited them along as well, Wales Online reports.

She explained: “We were looking forward to chilling out in the evenings to gather whilst the kids played harmoniously.”

But whilst she was chatting to another friend, telling her of their road trip plans, as one of the places they planned on visiting was also one of her favorite places, she unexpectedly said she would come too.

In a post on website mumsnet, the woman said: “She’s a high drama person, very controlling and this isn’t what I want. Problem is she said it in front of the kids who got excited about her coming so they have been chatting away all week now about the plans.”

She said her friend was offering to pay for herself so that wasn’t the issue, but she added: “It’s that she doesn’t have kids, and has mental health issues that can be quite overwhelming to manage. She’s had a horrible year but she’s really hard work and does need managing.

The woman asked for the advice of other mums, as she said the holiday would be a ‘nightmare’ if her other friend were to come along, but she said she needed advice on how to tactfully manage the situation so that she didn’t offend her friend.

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In the comments, one woman said: “I think I would start out by saying, ‘I’m really sorry but I don’t think you joining us is going to work’. That way she knows from the outset where the conversation is It helps that it’s basically true that Friend 1 would not be comfortable, you can do the whole ‘it puts me in an impossible position….it means her kids will miss out….’ thing with a clear conscience “

One other added: “I think you should use Friend 1 as an excuse, too. Say something like “hey, after speaking with Friend 1 I don’t think it’ll work – she’s really dying to spend time with me and DH, plus she’s a bit shy. It would be great to spend some time one on one with you, why don’t we go to the zoo/Devon/the mall when we get back?”

Another said: “Sorry, I didn’t mean to sound harsh. I can imagine it was difficult to say no when your honeymoon already sounded unconventional, with kids and another friend coming. But even so – who invites themselves on someone else’s holiday! No wonder you were taken by surprise. I know you’re worried about your friend and a possible misery spiral, but actually, she wasn’t too worried about your or your feelings when she invited herself on your honeymoon. Stand strong!”

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George Holan is chief editor at Plainsmen Post and has articles published in many notable publications in the last decade.

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