Terminally ill mum-of-three trolled for ‘looking too good to have cancer’

A woman who is battling cancer has revealed the shocking abuse she received from cruel strangers – who think she looks ‘too good’ to be ill.

Terminally ill Jemma McGowan was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer in February 2021 – and has only been given until May 2022 to live.

However, after documenting her journey on Instagram, the 27-year-old, mum-of-three, receives abuse by cruel strangers who claim she’s “faking it.”

Jemma says the abuse doesn’t bother her – as she’s desperately trying to find ways to prolong her life.

She has three children – Sadie, five, Louis, two, and Betty, one – and is desperate to see them grow up for as long as possible.

Jemma, from Omagh, Co Tyrone, told Belfast Live : “I get sent at least one nasty comment per week on social media.

“I regularly get told that I’m faking having cancer. And there’s someone else who keeps telling me that I don’t have terminal cancer as I look too good to be ill.

“I don’t really get upset or let it get to me as what they’re saying isn’t true. Strangers don’t know what they’re talking about. I feel like writing back ‘what more proof do you want? Do you want my blood? If I could give it to you I would!’”

Aged 22, Jemma was first diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2016, while six weeks pregnant with her second child with her now-husband Clive, 40, who she married in 2018.

Jemma McGowan with husband Clive and children Sadie, Louis and Betty

Petrified, she underwent surgery in the hospital to have it removed, and was told by doctors it wouldn’t come back.

“I had a really bad pain on my left side. I went to the GP and he thought I was having an ectopic pregnancy and sent me straight to A&E,” she said.

“They told me the baby was fine but I needed keyhole surgery to remove a fibroid on my ovary when I was 17 weeks pregnant.

“They discovered it was cancer, but had said it was low-grade stage 1, so I put it behind me and continued on with my life.”

Jemma didn’t experience any further symptoms over the next four years. But while she was 36 weeks pregnant with her third child, Jemma discovered a lump on her body in January 2021.

She questioned it with her midwife, and was fast-tracked for an MRI scan and admitted to the hospital to receive steroid treatment to get her baby ready for an early planned C section, which took place just weeks later.

Just 24 hours after giving birth, Jemma was told that her cancer had returned – this time with a tumor in her left lung and multiple tumors in her pelvic and pubic bones.

Jemma said: “The words that stand out to me were: incurable, aggressive and acting unusually.

“I started chemotherapy when Betty was just two-weeks-old but I was not prepared to give up and tell my babies that I’m going to die. I knew then I was going to fight this.”

Jemma went through three rounds of two different types of chemotherapy in Belfast, resulting in her hair falling out, as well as vomiting.

Then in May 2021, the oncologist team discovered three new tumors growing in Jemma’s body, and they explained that as the chemo wasn’t working, they wouldn’t be able to continue with her treatment.

They advised her to “get her affairs” in order, giving her a prognosis of just 3-15 months to live.

But motivated by the desire to be a mummy to her children for as long as possible, Jemma refused to accept the diagnosis.

“Chemotherapy made me very ill. It nearly killed me twice. And my tumors were growing when doctors said that it was unethical to continue,” she said.

“They eventually offered five rounds of pain management radiotherapy, but the side affects included never having sex again, needing a bladder bag, a bile bag and major surgery.

“Why would I put myself through five rounds for pain relief when my pain is generally not that bad? Plus, I’m not giving up on my sex life, I’ve given up on everything else, I need something!

“I fought for high dose radiotherapy and I eventually won 20 rounds. I want to see my children grow up.

“I’m not asking to be a granny, I just want to be a mummy. I don’t want forever, I just want more time, so why wouldn’t I give everything a go?”

Jemma started to research alternative and holistic treatments for cancer. She also decided to document her journey of her on Instagram.

She also found a controversial clinic in Mexico that offered alternative therapies for cancer but the trip would set the couple back £90,000.

Jemma, who was running her business selling used cars, launched a GoFundMe to help fund treatments.

Family, friends and strangers rallied around, raising more than £170,000 to date. It was enough for Jemma to book the trip.

“Clive and I flew out to Mexico in June 2021, where the doctors there set me up with a protocol and, in my case, it’s all natural supplements,” Jemma said.

“I take a lot of repurposed drugs and medicines that aren’t passed by FDA so they aren’t approved or available in this country, and are in clinical trials,” explained Jemma.

“I get medication from Mexico every six months, and then medication from London every eight weeks. It costs me about £2,500 every month. Fundraising is quite literally a lifeline.

“I recently got back from going to Mexico for the second time and it’s given me a reboost and encouraged me to keep on track. I don’t see dying in May as an option.

“My diet is also very strict – I have no sugar, no white carbs, no cow’s dairy and no meat protein. I do a lot of juicing and a lot of fasting.”

Jemma now feels like she is on the right path and is adamant that she is able to “heal herself” and prolong her life.

But she’s not in denial of the inevitable.

Appearing in a new documentary with Stacey Dooley called Stacey Dooley Sleeps Over which airs on W on April 19, Jemma breaks down in tears as she reveals she’s creating memory boxes for her three children.

She has also bought future gifts for them to open on big milestones such as their 18ths, passing their driving tests and their wedding days.

“I want them to remember me and know that I was thinking about them. Clive doesn’t really want to talk about it, but he’s not much of a talker!” Jemma said.

“Every time I approach the subject with him, he changes the subject. But I’ve told him to promise that my kids will never call another woman mummy.”

Amazingly, with her positive outlook, Jemma feels like she has been given a gift.

“None of us knows what tomorrow brings. I feel like I have been given something special as I know there’s a big possibility that my days are numbered,” she said.

“Someone eleven said to me that you could go out tomorrow and get killed in a car accident. I have something special, I know our fate so I can cherish what I have left and have time to prepare.”

Stacey Dooley Sleeps Over : Mum Fighting the Clock in which Stacey Dooley spends 72 hours as a house guest with Jemma will be airing on Monday 25th April at 10pm on Sky and UK TV Player.

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George Holan

George Holan is chief editor at Plainsmen Post and has articles published in many notable publications in the last decade.

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