Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world and many mums and dads will struggle from time to time – some might even regret having children.
One mother made this difficult confession in a recent social media post, saying that given the chance to do it all over again, she would not want to be a parent.
Writing anonymously to Facebook, the US woman explained that she regretted having children and is unsure if she truly loves her daughter.
According to the Mirror, she said: “I regret having children and being a mom. I hear it all the time from other parents and even my own mother, that they would do it all over again. I absolutely would not want to have the chance of being a mother again.
“I love my daughter, but at this point, it just feels like I have to or else I will raise a broken child. But it seems that I already f***ed her up. I cringe when I hear my best friend tell me I’m a good mom, because she doesn’t see how much of af***ing c**t I can be to her. dance video.
“It’s hard to raise a child when I am seen as the bad parent because I make her pick up her toys and clean her room, cause her dad sure as hell ain’t helping with around the house and she is like him in that way I just feel overwhelmed. Do I really love her at all? I don’t know anymore.”
The mum goes on to add that her daughter has learning disabilities and that has made everything so much more difficult for her to deal with.
“Trying to get her to take her medicine is hard and fighting I just don’t want to deal with. I honestly feel embarrassed that she still can’t read past a 1st grade level with her being in the 4th grade and that she is still extremely picky and that makes me think that I did something wrong but I dont know how to make her eat anything else.”
She adds: “I have tried bribing, withholding food that she likes from her and forcing her. Nothing has worked and I feel like people at her school, particularly the adults judge me because all I pack for her to eat is junk food.”
Dozens of people responded to the mum’s post, sending supportive messages to the woman.
One person wrote: “I just wanted to say that you’re not being a bad parent for setting limits and asking your child for some responsibility. It’s a hard, cruel world out there and everyone needs to be able to call on some discipline sometimes to make it through.When I was a kid, I hated how strict my parents were, but as an adult, I appreciate it.
“It’s enabled me to survive two recessions without amassing debt. My credit score is excellent. I know how to keep a small space tidy, how to budget, and how to find deals. These are all incredibly useful skills and I’m grateful for I’m sorry you’re experiencing so much suffering. I know it must be massively hard. But this one thing, I think you’re doing it right.”
Another replied: “Don’t let anyone judge your parenting. At the end of the why do you care what they think they aren’t raising your child, they aren’t providing for you. Their opinion should be irrelevant. At least that’s how.” I see it Only I know my child and there’s no one that can make me feel like a bad mom.
“We all feel like bad mothers at some point because we feel we aren’t doing enough or we are doing it wrong but we are doing our BEST even if we doubt ourselves at times.. I don’t regret having a baby I regret the huge loss of identity and freedom being a mom brings.
A third said: “This must be overwhelming and I feel for your sense of hopelessness. But the feelings about the learning disability have to be worked on. It’s way too much. Like someone asking you why you didn’t become fluent in Russian this month. Because that would be beyond your ability.”
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