An outraged dad has shared his recent order with his young son’s teacher after she tried to force him to invite about 72 people, made up of 24 children and their parents, to his son’s upcoming birthday party.
Birthdays are one of the most memorable moments for children but this particular bash may stick in the mind even more as sparks are already flying in the air at the preparation stage of the event.
The unnamed father took to Reddit’s Am I the A**hole forum, claiming that the persistent teacher called him up to say that she is aware he only invited a few kids who are his son’s friends from class and not all of the children.
The dad details that this is because his son has “problems” with some kids in the class and that they cannot “handle” hosting that many people, The Mirror reports.
This did not go down well with the teacher, who informed him of a rule they have in his class.
He said: “She then tells me that there is a rule that if any kids in the class are invited that all kids in the class are invited. I told her it is an event off school hours on private property in my home.
“She can no more tell me what I do there and who I can and can’t invite any more than I can decide who is invited to her Thanksgiving dinner.
“She then tells me there is a good reason for the rule since kids get their feelings hurt if they get left out. So then I pointed out to her that there are 24 kids in the class.
“If their parents attend the party with them then that can be upwards of 72 people and I told her that’s just not a reasonable thing to ask.
“I also point out that he has friends from other classes attending, so do I have to invite that whole other class too? She then said ‘your son is in my class. He is under my supervision. This is my rule.’
“I then told her that he is only under her supervision while he was in class. I am the one throwing the party, and she doesn’t get to make rules for my house or me. She then said if it involves her class, she does.”
The dad then shared a sassy response to the teacher’s rule, saying: “Lady, it’s pretty clear that you’re too used to bossing around kids who have to listen to you and that you don’t seem to understand that your little fiefdom ends at the end of the school day and doesn’t go further than schoolhouse gates.
“I’m a 38-year-old union electrician planning a private event in my own home, off school hours. If you think you’re the one to make the rules for me, in my home on which I pay the mortgage on , you can go f**k yourself and there isn’t a goddamn thing you can do about it.”
The dad hung up after this.
He says his wife agrees with his point about the party but thinks he went too far swearing at the teacher, so he asked fellow Reddit users if he was in the wrong.
More than 1,800 people responded to the post, with some taking the dad’s side and others agreeing the rule was common in schools.
A user wrote: “Teacher here, and I agree with this! She was out of line for calling you in the first place, and then had the audacity to double down and insist that literally, anything that involves students in her class is her business Out-freaking-rageous!
“Tell the principal, and if you aren’t satisfied with that result, call up the superintendent.”
Another said: “You can’t make people invite kids they don’t want. And if you do succeed in that quest; do you think the kid won’t be excluded at the party?
“This is not the way to include a bullied child… and making it so that nobody can host a birthday anymore will only make the resentment bigger and the bullying worse.”
Someone else replied: “Every preschool and elementary school my kids attended had this rule also, as did the schools my spouse and I attended decades ago. It’s a very common rule.”
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